【中文】不要把全部自我价值寄托在他人的认可之上。他人的赞美只是附加的点缀，不能定义你是谁。如果你的喜怒哀乐完全由别人的评价掌控，你就等于交出了人生的主动权。学会自我肯定，相信自己的判断。你无需向全世界证明你的价值，你本身就拥有不可替代的意义。 【英文】Do not place all your self-worth on others’ approval. Praise from others is only extra decoration and cannot define who you are. If your joys and sorrows are fully controlled by others’ comments, you hand over the initiative of your life. Learn to affirm yourself and trust your own judgment. You do not need to prove your value to the whole world; you already hold irreplaceable meaning. ——黑塞《荒原狼》

对于小我来说，当下时刻几乎不存在，只有过去和未来才是重的--完全颠倒是非。 我再也无法忍受我自己 某天，当这个、那个或其他的事情发生我就会很好、很幸福，也很平和 ——是不是很熟悉的声音？ 如果我不能忍受我自己，那么肯定有两个我和自己，或许，其中只有一个是真的。另一个就是小我Ego 这是因为，当我们的大脑由小我掌控时，它是功能失调的。小我尽力使过去发生的事情复活，因为如果没有过去，你将会是谁?它还不断地把自己投射到未来，以确保它能继续存活，并且在未来寻找某种慰藉或满足。 即使当小我看似在关切当下时，它所关切的也不是眼前的当下，因为小我看待当下的方式完全错误一-它是以过去的眼光来看的。或者它把当下作为达成未来目的的手段，而这个目的，始终存在于思准所投射出的未来。

Fate between people lasts for different lengths. Not every encounter can last till the end. Some people come into your life only to walk with you for a section of the road, teach you some truths, and then wave goodbye. Do not grieve too much over separation. Meeting itself is already a gift. Cherish the time spent together, and bless the other person calmly when parting comes. Accepting meetings and separations is a lesson life must teach us. ——茨威格《昨日的世界》 【中文】人与人之间的缘分有长有短，不是所有相遇都能够走到最后。有些人来到你的生命，只是陪你走过一程，教会你一些道理，然后挥手告别。不必为离散过度悲伤，相遇本身已是馈赠。珍惜相伴的时光，当离别到来，坦然祝福对方。接纳相遇与别离，是人生必须学习的课题。

【中文】幸福不是一个终点目标，而是一种内在的生活状态。很多人误以为，达成某个目标之后，自己就会永久幸福。可等到目标实现，短暂喜悦很快消散，又会陷入空虚。幸福存在于当下，藏在认真生活的每一刻。学会在当下感知喜悦，而不是永远把幸福寄托在未来某个节点。 【英文】Happiness is not an end goal, but an inner state of living. Many people mistakenly believe they will stay happy forever once they reach a certain goal. But after achieving the goal, short-lived joy fades quickly, and emptiness comes again. Happiness exists in the present, hidden in every moment of earnest living. Learn to feel joy right now instead of always placing happiness at some point in the future. ——毛姆《彩巾》

【中文】语言拥有巨大力量，它既能治愈人心，也可以轻易造成伤害。说话之前，请三思你的言辞。随口而出的嘲讽、指责，会在别人心里留下长久伤痕。温和真诚的话语，却能在低谷时给予他人力量。管好自己的言语，不随意出口伤人，是一种高级的修养。善待他人，先从好好说话开始。 【英文】Words carry great power. They can heal hearts, yet they can also hurt easily. Think twice before you speak. Casual mockery and blame may leave long-lasting scars in others’ hearts. Gentle and sincere words can give strength to people in low moments. Controlling your words and refusing to hurt others casually is a high level of self-cultivation. To treat others kindly, start with speaking well. ——雨果《巴黎圣母院》

【中文】责任感不是沉重的枷锁，而是赋予生命重量的基石。人活一世，总要承担属于自己的责任，对自己、对所爱之人，对选择的道路。逃避责任，或许能获得短暂轻松，但长久之后内心会空洞不安。主动扛起责任，人才会变得稳重强大。承担责任的过程，就是一步步成为可靠之人的过程。 【英文】A sense of responsibility is not a heavy chain, but the foundation that gives life weight. Living in this world, one must take one’s own responsibilities, for yourself, your beloved ones and the path you choose. Escaping responsibility may bring temporary ease, yet your heart will feel empty and uneasy in the long run. Taking responsibility actively makes people steady and strong. The process of bearing responsibility is the process of gradually becoming a reliable person. ——托尔斯泰《安娜·卡列尼娜》

【中文】好奇心是生命永葆鲜活的源泉。当一个人不再对世界抱有好奇，他的内心就开始走向衰老。无论年龄多大，都可以保持探索的热情，去接触新事物，接纳新想法。世界广阔辽阔，永远有不曾见过的风景，不曾读懂的道理。守住好奇心，你就永远不会彻底困在一成不变的生活之中。 【英文】Curiosity is the source that keeps life fresh forever. When a person no longer holds curiosity about the world, his heart begins to grow old. No matter how old you are, you can keep enthusiasm for exploration, touch new things and accept new ideas. The world is vast, and there are always unseen scenery and ununderstood truths. Keep your curiosity, and you will never be trapped in an unchanging life completely. ——赫胥黎《美丽新世界》

【中文】世间所有长久珍贵的事物，都需要耐心培育。大树要数十年扎根，美酒要经年沉淀，深厚的情谊同样需要时间慢慢滋养。急于求成往往适得其反，想要速成，最后很容易快速消散。学会保持耐心，静待时机，默默耕耘。凡是值得拥有的美好，都值得我们慢慢等待。 【英文】All long-lasting precious things in the world require patient cultivation. Big trees take decades to root; fine wine needs years to settle; deep friendships also need slow nourishment over time. Rushing for quick results often backfires. Things obtained hastily tend to fade away quickly. Learn to stay patient, wait for the right time and work quietly. All beauties worth having deserve our slow waiting. ——圣埃克苏佩里《小王子》

True self-esteem comes from inner self-recognition rather than praise from outside. If your sense of value fully depends on others’ comments, one negative remark from others can easily break you. People with firm inner hearts know their own worth and do not need to seek constant affirmation outside. Self-esteem is not arrogance. It means knowing how to respect yourself, refusing to wrong yourself easily, and not letting others belittle your soul at will. ——夏洛蒂·勃朗特《维莱特》 【中文】真正的自尊，来自内在的自我认同，而非外界的赞美。如果你的价值感全部依靠别人的评价，那么别人一句否定，就足以轻易击溃你。内心笃定的人，清楚自己的价值，不需要不停向外寻求肯定。自尊不是傲慢，是懂得尊重自己，不轻易委屈自己，不任由他人随意贬低你的灵魂。

Being alone is not the same as loneliness. Loneliness is passive suffering, while solitude is actively chosen abundance. Among crowds, we often need to disguise ourselves and cater to others. Only when staying alone can we take off all masks and face our true selves. Learn to enjoy solitude, talk with yourself in quietness, sort out thoughts and see what your heart desires. Those who can stay peacefully alone do not need others to fill inner emptiness. ——黑塞《德米安》 【中文】独处不等于孤独，孤独是被动的煎熬，独处却是主动选择的丰盈。人群之中，我们常常需要伪装自己，迎合他人。只有独自待着的时候，我们才可以卸下全部面具，直面真实自我。学会享受独处，在安静中和自己对话，梳理思绪，看清内心所求。能够安然独处的人，不必依靠他人来填补内心空虚。