我们这一生，一直在学习告别。告别青春，告别健康，告别安稳无忧的日子，告别曾经以为永远不会离开的亲人。告别固然令人悲伤，但它也是生命自带的一部分。正是因为一切都有期限，那些平安相伴的时光，才显得格外珍贵。不必因为终将到来的别离，就否定当下相聚的温暖，好好把握还能在一起的每一刻，就是最好的回应。（里尔克《给青年诗人的信》） All our lives, we keep learning how to say farewell. We bid farewell to youth, good health, carefree days, and loved ones whom we once thought would never leave. Farewell is sorrowful, yet it is an inherent part of life. Precisely because everything has an end, those peaceful days spent together become extraordinarily precious. Do not deny the warmth of present companionship just because separation will come someday. Cherish every moment you can stay together, and that is the finest response.

Most things in the world have their own time window, and there is no rush to get all answers at once. Some questions are meant to wait, to be left to doctors, examinations, and truths that slowly unfold later. The harder we push ourselves to figure out all difficulties instantly, the more tangled our thoughts become. Being temporarily unresolved is also a state, not a dead end. Rest well and steady your mind in these waiting days, so you will have enough strength to face everything ahead. 世间绝大多数事情，都有它的时间窗口，不必急着在一瞬间拿到全部答案。有些问题适合等待，适合交给医生，交给检查，交给后续慢慢浮现的真相。我们越是逼迫自己立刻想通所有难题，思绪就越容易打结。暂时悬而未决，也是一种状态，不是绝境。在等待的日子里好好休息，稳住心神，才有足够的心力去迎接之后要面对的一切。（普鲁斯特《追忆似水年华》）

人与人之间的情绪是会互相传递的，焦虑像一阵冷风，很容易从一个人吹到另一个人身上。当身边的人长久陷在负面的思绪里，你会不自觉跟着紧绷、沉重。你可以共情他人的痛苦，聆听他们的不安，但不必把所有人的恐惧全部揽到自己身上。守住自己内心的边界，不是冷漠，而是为了保留一点力气，才能长久地去陪伴与支撑。（托尔斯泰《复活》） Emotions pass between people, and anxiety is like a cold wind that easily blows from one person to another. When someone close to you lingers long in negative thoughts, you will involuntarily grow tense and heavy alongside them. You may empathize with others’ pain and listen to their unease, yet you do not have to take all their fears onto your own shoulders. Guarding the boundary of your heart is not indifference; it is preserving a little strength so you can accompany and support them for a long time.

恐惧本身，往往比我们害怕的那件事更消耗人。很多时候，折磨我们的不是苦难真实的样子，而是我们在脑海里反复想象出来的最坏结局。我们提前预想疼痛、别离、失败，于是在事情尚未发生时，就已经心力交瘁。勇气不是完全没有恐惧，而是明明心怀忐忑，依旧按部就班做好该做的事。把未知交给时间，我们只负责做好当下力所能及的准备。（梭罗《瓦尔登湖》） Fear itself often drains us far more than the thing we fear. More often than not, it is not the real face of suffering that torments us, but the worst outcomes we repeatedly imagine in our minds. We picture pain, separation and failure in advance, and become exhausted long before these things arrive. Courage does not mean being free of fear; it means moving forward and doing what should be done, even with unease in your heart. Leave the unknown to time, and we only need to make preparations within our power for now.

责任与向往，并不是天生对立的两件事。一个人心里装着牵挂的家人，同时依然保有对远方的渴望，这一点都不矛盾。你不必为心里的期待感到愧疚，也不能无视肩上该承担的担子。成熟，就是学会在两者之间寻找平衡，尽力安顿好身边人，也不彻底熄灭自己心里那一点光亮。没有人可以做到完美无憾，我们能做的，只是在选择之后坦然承担结果。（罗曼·罗兰《约翰·克利斯朵夫》） Responsibility and longing are not inherently opposed to each other. It is not contradictory at all for a person to carry caring for family in his heart while still holding the desire for distant places. You need not feel guilty for your inner hopes, nor can you ignore the burdens you ought to bear. Maturity means learning to strike a balance between the two: doing your best to settle those beside you, without completely extinguishing the little light inside yourself. No one can live without regret, and all we can do is accept the consequences calmly once we make a choice.

不要因为一时的困顿，就认定整个人生都是灰暗的。命运会给人设置低谷，但低谷不等于终点。你此刻承受的疲惫、惶恐与两难，都会在岁月里慢慢沉淀成属于你的力量。没有人可以永远一帆风顺，那些扛过去的时刻，会悄悄拓宽你灵魂的边界。生活不会一直善待谁，可它也不会永远把人困在原地。（伏尔泰《老实人》） Do not judge your whole life as gloomy just because of a temporary hardship. Fate sets low valleys for human beings, yet a valley is never the finish line. The weariness, fear and dilemma you bear at this moment will slowly settle into your strength as years go by. No one can sail smoothly forever, and those moments you survive will quietly broaden the boundary of your soul. Life will not always treat anyone kindly, but neither will it trap a person forever in one place.

我们常常在期待遥远的事物，却忽略了脚下正在流淌的此刻。人一生的烦恼，大多来自拿尚未发生的未来折磨自己，或是反复打捞早已沉没的过往。时间不会停下等我们准备妥当，它只是安静向前，无论我们欢喜或是悲伤。真正的智慧，不是预知结局，而是有能力安住在当下，认真接住每一个平凡的晨昏。不必强求事事圆满，接纳遗憾本身，也是活着重要的一课。（毛姆《刀锋》） We are always looking forward to distant things, yet overlook the present moment flowing beneath our feet. Most of our troubles in life come from tormenting ourselves with a future that has not yet arrived, or dredging up the past that has long sunk. Time will not stop and wait for us to get ready; it only moves forward quietly, whether we rejoice or grieve. True wisdom does not lie in foreseeing the ending, but in the ability to abide in the present, to receive every ordinary dawn and dusk earnestly. We need not force everything to be perfect, for accepting regret itself is an important lesson of being alive.

我们以为只要持续向内分析、溯源创伤、拆解自我，不断思索 “我是谁、我为什么痛苦”，就能抵达自由。可恰恰是这种不间断的思维活动，持续加固了 “观察者 — 被观察者” 的分裂： 有一个 “我” 在审视我的情绪、我的痛苦、我的欲望。这个分裂，就是一切焦虑、内耗、挣扎的源头。

【中文】习惯拥有润物无声的力量。我们当下的样子，是无数微小习惯日积月累塑造出来的。一个好习惯每天带来的改变微不足道，坚持数年之后，会彻底重塑一个人的状态；坏习惯也是一样，一点点侵蚀精力、消耗状态，等到察觉的时候，已经积重难返。人生的分水岭，很多时候就藏在日复一日无人看见的选择与习惯里。 【英文】Habits carry quiet, gradual power. Who we are right now is shaped by countless tiny habits accumulated over time. A good habit brings barely noticeable change each day, yet after years it can reshape a person completely. Bad habits work the same way, eroding energy and state little by little until the damage becomes hard to reverse. The dividing line in life often hides within the daily choices and habits unseen by others. —— 奥威尔《一九八四》董乐山译

【中文】真正的自信，不是时时刻刻觉得自己样样都好，而是坦然承认自己有短板、有局限，依然认可自己的价值。自负是盲目看不见缺点，自卑是只盯着缺点，自信是看见全部的自己，接纳优劣共存。你不必完美才值得被尊重和喜欢。允许自己有不擅长的地方，依然敢往前走，这就是自信最真实的样子。 【英文】True confidence does not mean thinking you are good at everything all the time. It means acknowledging your weaknesses and limits openly while still recognizing your own worth. Conceit means being blind to flaws, inferiority means fixating only on flaws, and confidence means seeing the whole of yourself and accepting strengths and weaknesses together. You do not need to be perfect to deserve respect and affection. Allowing yourself to have things you are bad at, yet still daring to move forward, is what confidence truly looks like. —— 卡耐基《人性的弱点》刘祜译