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當情緒不良時還能不惡言相向, 那是一種真正的修養, 更是一種成熟人格的展現。 因為那一刻的你,選擇了不讓情緒掌控你的人格。 你知道:情緒可以來,可以走, 但說出的話,會留下痕跡。 傷人的語句,就像撒出去的針, 不小心就會刺破最親近的心。 你不壓抑情緒,但你選擇不轉嫁。 你不是沒情緒,而是你有能力承擔它。 這是理性與感性的平衡, 是一個人走過風雨後,仍選擇溫柔的能力。 這樣的你,值得尊敬。 願我們在情緒來臨時, 記得把語言放慢,態度放軟,心放寬—— 因為真正強大的人,不靠吼叫,而是靠理解自己。
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【中文】苦难本身没有意义,赋予苦难意义的,是我们熬过苦难之后的思考与成长。痛苦会打磨一个人,也可能摧毁一个人,差别在于人是否保有自省的力量。不要祝福苦难降临,但是当苦难无可避免地到来时,我们可以选择不被它吞噬。那些穿过黑暗的时刻,会悄悄重塑我们看待世界、看待得失的眼光。等到回头再看,曾经压垮我们的重担,最后都变成了托举我们的底气。 【英文】Suffering carries no meaning in itself. It is our reflection and growth after enduring suffering that gives it meaning. Pain may temper a person, or it may destroy them, and the difference lies in whether one keeps the power of self-examination. We should never wish for suffering to come, yet when it arrives unavoidably, we may choose not to be consumed by it. Those hours spent walking through darkness will quietly reshape how we see the world and gains and losses. When we look back in time, the burdens that once crushed us will finally become the strength that holds us up. —— 茨威格《人类群星闪耀时》舒昌善译
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【中文】大多数人都活在别人期待的框架里,按照世俗的标准去追逐财富、名望与安稳,渐渐忘记自己真正渴望什么。他们害怕与众不同,害怕被议论,害怕打破既定的生活轨迹,于是心甘情愿困在重复的日常里。可灵魂的自由,从来不是别人赠予的礼物,而是敢于倾听自我、忠于本心的勇气。不必害怕被旁人看作古怪,能清醒地活成自己,本就是一件难得的事。很多人直到暮年才醒悟,一生最大的遗憾,是从来没有为自己活过。 【英文】Most people live within frames built by others’ expectations, chasing wealth, fame and security according to worldly standards, and gradually forget what they truly desire. They fear being different, fear gossip, fear breaking the established track of life, and thus willingly trap themselves in repetitive days. Yet freedom of the soul is never a gift given by others; it is the courage to listen to oneself and stay true to one’s heart. Do not fear being seen as strange by those around you. To live consciously as yourself is already a rare achievement. Many people do not wake up until old age, realizing their greatest regret is that they have never lived for themselves. —— 毛姆《月亮与六便士》傅惟慈译
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The pursuit of a lifetime is not to avoid storms forever, but to learn to keep inner order amid them. We often think happiness lies in reaching a certain destination, yet true happiness hides in every sincere feeling, every choice, and every act of taking responsibility. Do not judge yourself by other people’s timetables, for everyone has their own rhythm to bloom, settle and ripen. Fate may place hardships before us, but it can never force us to decide how we face those hardships. As long as our hearts do not surrender, we always hold the right to start anew. —— 罗曼·罗兰《约翰·克利斯朵夫》傅雷译 【中文】人一生的追求,并非是永远避开风浪,而是学会在风浪里守住内心的秩序。我们常常以为幸福是抵达某个终点,可真正的幸福,藏在每一次认真感受、每一次选择、每一次承担之中。不必拿别人的时间表评判自己,每个人都有属于自己开花、沉淀、成熟的节奏。命运可以给我们困境,却无法强行定义我们以何种姿态面对困境。只要内心没有放弃,就永远拥有重新出发的权利。
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【《理想国》柏拉图,郭斌和 译】 洞穴寓言告诉我们,大多数人一生都只看见事物的影子,便把影子当成真实。走出洞穴的过程是痛苦的,强光会刺痛眼睛。可一旦看见真正的阳光,你就再也不愿意回到黑暗之中。追求真理的道路孤独又艰难,但看清真相之后,你才有能力自主判断,不再被他人的言语随意裹挟。 The allegory of the cave tells us that most people see only shadows of things all their lives and take shadows for reality. The journey out of the cave is painful, and bright light stings the eyes. But once you see the real sunlight, you will never wish to return to darkness. The pursuit of truth is lonely and hard, yet only after seeing the truth can you judge independently and stop being swayed casually by others’ words.
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【《刀锋》毛姆,周煦良 译】 一把刀的锋刃很不容易越过;因此智者说得救之道是困难的。很多人一辈子忙着追逐世俗定义的成功,可内心始终得不到安宁。有的人放下安稳的生活,去寻找内心的答案。这条路没有标准答案,没有保证幸福的承诺,但一个人愿意去追问生命的本质,本身就是一件了不起的事。 The sharp edge of a razor is difficult to pass over; thus the wise say the path to salvation is hard. Many people spend their whole lives chasing success defined by the world, yet their hearts never find peace. Some leave secure lives behind to seek answers deep within. There is no standard answer for this road, no promise of happiness, but it is remarkable that a person dares to question the essence of life.
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【《鲁滨逊漂流记》笛福,徐霞村 译】 我学会了多看我处境中光明的一面,少看阴暗的一面;多想我所得到的,少想我所缺少的。很多时候折磨我们的不是困境本身,而是我们永不停歇的比较之心。哪怕环境恶劣,人依然有能力调整自己的想法。感恩所拥有的,是在逆境之中支撑人走下去最重要的力量。 I learned to look more upon the bright side of my condition, and less upon the dark side; and to consider what I enjoyed rather than what I wanted. More often than not, it is not hardship itself that torments us, but our endless habit of comparison. Even in terrible surroundings, human beings retain the power to adjust their own minds. Gratitude for what you already possess is the greatest strength that carries you through adversity.
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Pride relates more to our opinion of ourselves, vanity to what we would have others think of us. A person may be proud without being vain. Pride relates more to our opinion of ourselves, vanity to what we would have others think of us. Never judge a person hastily from first impressions, for appearances often deceive us. Human hearts are complicated, and it takes time and patience to gradually see the true nature. 【《傲慢与偏见》简·奥斯汀,王科一 译】 骄傲多半不外乎我们对我们自己的估价,虚荣却牵涉到我们希望别人对我们的看法。一个人可以骄傲而不虚荣。骄傲多指我们对自己的看法,虚荣多指我们想要旁人对我们产生的看法。不要凭第一印象轻易评判一个人,表象常常会欺骗我们。人心复杂,需要时间和耐心,才能慢慢看清本质。
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【《局外人》加缪,刘方 译】 对未来的真正慷慨,是把一切献给现在。我们总在等待某个合适的时机,等待财富、等待空闲、等待一个完美的开端。可是时间不会停下来等我们。明天是不可预知的,唯一牢牢握在手里的,只有此时此刻。认真对待当下的每一刻,就是我们能给予生命最大的诚意。 The only way to be generous toward the future is to give everything to the present. We are always waiting for the right moment, waiting for wealth, waiting for free time, waiting for a perfect beginning. But time will never wait for us. Tomorrow is unpredictable, and the only thing firmly in our hands is this very moment. To treat every present moment seriously is the greatest sincerity we can offer to life.
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【《苏菲的世界》乔斯坦·贾德,萧宝森 译】 你是谁?世界从何而来?这两个问题没有简单的标准答案。大多数人慢慢习惯这个世界,把一切当成理所当然,不再好奇。哲学家永远保有孩童一般的惊奇。我们不应该对这个庞大奇妙的宇宙熟视无睹。保持好奇,持续思考,你就永远不会被刻板的生活完全困住。 Who are you? Where does the world come from? These two questions have no simple standard answers. Most people gradually grow accustomed to the world and take everything for granted, losing their curiosity. Philosophers always keep the wonder of a child. We ought not to overlook this vast and marvelous universe. Keep curious and keep thinking, and you will never be fully trapped by rigid routines.
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雄关漫道真如铁,而今迈步从头越。从头越,苍山如海,残阳如血。 路是走出来的,不是想出来的。 今天的我们,总希望先把一切想清楚,要“只欠东风”。其实没谁见过那东风!当你实在想不清方向时,别怕,先走起来再说。 爬过了才叫山,千万别想着想着,那条本来可以走的路,自己长满了草。 要相信,站在原地只能看见越来越高的山,唯有走出去,才能摸着越来越远的天。

